The Moon, in Astrology, is the ruler of Cancer. The Moon represents our deepest personal needs, our basic habits and reactions, and our unconscious.
Where the Sun acts, the Moon reacts. How do we instinctively react or respond to problems? What do we feel we need for a sense of security? Look to the Moon in your natal chart for answers.
Moon in Libra
Moon in Libra people have a strong need for partnership. Without someone to share their lives with, they feel utterly incomplete. This is why many people with this position get involved in marriages or living-together arrangements quite young.
Because this drive for harmony, peace, and sharing is so powerful, Lunar Librans are apt to do a lot of conceding. They are sympathetic and concerned for others, enjoy socializing, and revel in a good debate. Mental rapport with others is especially important to them.
Lunar Librans feel safe and secure when they are in a partnership. These are the people who seem to always need to have someone tag along with them wherever they go—even if it is to the corner store. They find strength and reinforcement in and through others.
Both men and women with this position are often quite charming. They can be very attractive to be around, and are often given to flirtatiousness. Rarely directly aggressive, these people win your heart with their gentle and refined ways.
Moon in Libra natives simply can't help but see flaws in their environment and their relationships. In fact, anything out of whack will bother them until it's fixed. Although diplomatic with acquaintances, when Moon in Libra natives argue with their long-standing partners, they rarely let up until they win. And, winning an argument is a Libran specialty—in fact, they may not even believe what they are saying, but will adopt all kinds of ideas just to get the last word. Living with Lunar Librans can sometimes feel like you are on trial, and Libra is the expert lawyer. Sometimes, though, Libra is defending you and supporting your point of view.
Lunar Librans' idealistic outlook and constant striving for the best, most harmonious lifestyle can lead to much discontent. Looking for that one (elusive) perfect way to lead their lives can detract from enjoyment of the moment.
Analysis
Just like my taurus enjoys comfort, and as much as I am enjoying dating, I want a partner. I have been able to teach myself how to get along being alone, but it's not what I want. I wouldn't be comfortable at all being alone the rest of my life. And it isn't because I just don't like being alone, it's about wanting to share my experiences with one person. I am materialistic, but I feel best when giving things to someone I care about. As for living with someone while still young, does moving in with a girlfriend at 25 count as young?
It says that lunar libras do a lot of conceding and are peaceful and want harmony. Now, most that dated me would totally disagree because I love to argue, but I think this is a pretty accurate statement. I gave up a lot in my last relationship. I love to gamble. Gave it up. I enjoyed the occasional smoke. Gave it up. I loved a lot of things, and dealt for along time with the belief that things would work out if I kept "conceding". Well, conceding only led to bigger blow ups later. I have to fight my nature to finally understand that communicating your needs is a lot better than giving things up for the sake of keeping the peace.
Both men and women with this position are often quite charming. They can be very attractive to be around, and are often given to flirtatiousness. Rarely directly aggressive, these people win your heart with their gentle and refined ways.
All the women I have dated have needed to accept that I try to be charming all the time, to everyone. Young, old, skinny, big, it doesn't matter. I just enjoy women. Sometimes it can be considered flirting, but in my opinion, it's only flirting if you have some sort of physical intentions. Unfortunately, women I have been with don't know my intentions without asking. I can now control my flirting when I'm in a relationship, but it sure comes in handy when dating!
This next part is probably why things usually go south when I concede in my relationships.
Moon in Libra natives simply can't help but see flaws in their environment and their relationships. In fact, anything out of whack will bother them until it's fixed. Although diplomatic with acquaintances, when Moon in Libra natives argue with their long-standing partners, they rarely let up until they win.
So I concede, but I don't want to when it comes to relationships. But I do and it boils and I blow my lid. I absolutely notice when things aren't going well in a relationship and I hate ignoring the obvious. My problem though is letting things sit in order to keep the peace. I need to be better at trying to identify and fix problems as they happen, and not just "accept" them for now when you know it will just bother and eat away at me. I also need to be better at walking away. I think my moon in libra desire for partnership gets in the way of me knowing when to walk away if things aren't working.
Lunar Librans' idealistic outlook and constant striving for the best, most harmonious lifestyle can lead to much discontent. Looking for that one (elusive) perfect way to lead their lives can detract from enjoyment of the moment.
And this is one of the most true things about my deepest desires that you can ever know about me. I'm trying to get over it. I used to want perfect. I wanted to be perfect myself. I do everything but am never satisfied at how good I am at even one thing. I play the piano and a good number of people would consider me, not great, but at least good. I should be happy that I at least know how to play the piano, but now I am so mad that my piano teachers didn't teach me theory and that I can only play the notes I read that I feel that I am just plain awful because I don't know how to write music or improvise. I've been playing the guitar for a year and a half. I feel like I should be jamming some sweet dave matthew or john mayer by now, but that is just unreasonable given how often I practice. I am learning to partner dance, I work out to stay in shape, and I want to be the best partner I can be to a special woman. The problem is I spread myself too thin. I want to be perfect, but no one is perfect. I used to have checklists of things I looked for in women, and I'm quickly learning that checklists are dumb.
Getting over my idealism and my desire for perfection is something that I work hard at every day. It takes away from the joy of learning how to play the guitar, deprives me from meeting new people because they don't meet my "checklist", the humor in the journey of badly dancing to not badly dancing, and the appreciation that my parents allowed me to have piano lessons so that I can at least read notes, play music, and have the opportunity to do more with music than most. Life is made up of countless moments and those are the things that matter. Perfection is not only unachievable, but boring. And boring sucks.
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