Attraction and signs

If a man's Venus is in Aries, he is often attracted to a tomboyish woman, perhaps athletic in appearance, but more importantly, direct, forthright, and straightforward. Ultra sensitive or shy women are not usually the most attractive women to these men, as they tend to prefer strong and independent types.

So where the heck does my taurus come in? I am so fire sign oriented and attracted to such strong personalities that it's making it hard to find something that lasts. I say I'm never going to settle, but maybe it's about time to find a women that is less brash and become less brash myself. Too bad attraction isn't rational. If I could choose who I was attracted to, settling would be so much easier.

Then again, yesterday a friend that I work out with at the gym helped me with a problem. I locked my keys in the trunk of my G35 coupe, and while pop a lock opened my door, when the alarm goes off, the trunk buttons disable. I was frustrated as hell, and she came out and essentially said, "get your manual". She read through it and we ended up figuring out you can get to the trunk by, literally, taking out the back seat cushions. There is a little release that is hard to get to if you don't take out the seats. She spent a good 20-30 mins, when she damn well didn't have to, helping me out.

Anyway, the whole point of the story is that this woman is quite awesome. Except for the fact that I'm a bit...abrasive for her and she's a bit understated for me. I offend her quite easily, which is quite annoying, but we get along great during our runs. I warm up with her twice a week, and we get along fine at the gym. She's resourceful, successful, funny, liberal, loves wine and food, and is the only woman that comes close to being as beautiful and sexy as my ex is. If she was maybe 3 inches taller, she'd give my ex a run for her money. So yeah, she is such a nice person, and other than she's in a not very good long distance relationship, I wonder if I toned down a bit from the beginning if I would have a chance. Definitely not gonna happen now (more likely if ever, but I still can have a crush!), but it got me thinking. Maybe I need to change. Put out some of my fire. At my age, it seems there are fewer and fewer women that seem to get my humor, accept my vulgarity, and don't get offended easily. I'm not in college anymore and I don't want to spend my life alone even though I know I could if I had to.

So I think I am going to tone it down now so that I make myself more appealing to a broader base of women. As with all relationships, every person will have their faults, and you need to decide if those are things you can accept and if the person is worth it to accept their faults. I know I could accept a woman who doesn't have the fire I'm quite attracted to, as long as she was nice (but not TOO nice) and respected me. And in return, I can be... just less. I've changed so much this year, and this would be another big change for me, but maybe it needs to be done. I don't think it would be so bad to turn the burner down just a notch.